There comes a time in a relationship where you know it is time to say goodbye. This can be an unhealthy family relationship, a romantic relationship, or a friendship. Very often, these goodbyes are not mutual, and they are never easy.
“Goodbye” has a sense of finality to it – a sense of foreboding, even. How often do we say a casual “goodbye”? Maybe a jovial “see you later” or a friendly “good night”…but how often is it goodbye? The most common use of this word in my experience comes to the very young, and to the old and ailing. I often hear my friends entreat their children to “say goodbye and give goodbye hugs!” or something to that accord. Nearly as frequently, I hear the term used in a context similar to “we’re not certain how much longer he will last – you may wish to come by soon and say your goodbyes.”
I hate goodbyes. I hate the feeling rolling over your skin, the stoic knowledge of an ending. They’re often necessary, these ends of relationships, but to me there is always the bittersweet memory of the time before the goodbye, the time when things were still nice and easy and happy. Even after the physical encounter, it takes a long time for me to stop regretting the ending.
What about you? How do you say “goodbye”?